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On Commitment May 29, 2010

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Still, the Reb knew that marriage was an endangered institution…

“I think people expect too much from marriage today,” he said. “They expect perfection. Every moment should be bliss. That’s TV or movies. But that is not the human experience.

“Like Sarah says, twenty good minutes here, forty good minutes there, it adds up to something beautiful. The trick is when things aren’t so great, you don’t junk the whole thing. It’s okay to have an argument. It’s okay that the other one nudges you a little, bothers you a little. It’s part of being close to someone.”

“But the joy you get from the same closeness- when you watch your children, when you wake up and smile at each other- that, as our tradition teaches us is a blessing. People forget that.”

“Because the word ‘commitment’ has lost its meaning. I’m old enough to remember when it used to be a positive. A committed person was someone to be admired. He was loyal and steady. Now a commitment is something you avoid. You don’t want to tie yourself down.”

And if you don’t commit? I asked.

“Your choice. But you miss what’s on the other side.”

What’s on the other side?

“Ah.” He smiled. “A happiness you cannot find alone.”

– From Have a little a faith

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